“Life is difficult
this is a great truth, of the greatest truths.
It is a great truth because once we truly
see this truth, we transcend it.
Once we truly understand and accept it –
then life is no longer difficult.
Because once it is accepted,
the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.”

 – M Scott Peck, The Road less traveled

Life is definitely not smooth sailing but how does one negotiate the troughs of life. Mental conditioning with liberal doses of spirituality, positivity , stoicism,meditation and learning from other’s experiences are great coping strategies. Recent research has shown that repetitive mental activity can rewire and physically change the structure of the brain. So in effect,reinforcing and repeatedly being positive in day to day life,definitely goes a long way towards strengthening the neuron synapses. That throws up interesting possibilities, as it might be possible to condition oneself for being positive even in preparedness for an event ,that is yet to occur.

To maintain equanimity as age & time deal a hard blow, requires great inner fortitude.To suddenly find your physical strength deserting you,to be trapped within your own body, can be intensely traumatic and despite all the mental preparation, one can precariously totter on the verge of a complete collapse. And while the tide of destiny sweeps away the tenuous hold on a patient’s physical well-being, equally and if not more exacting is the role of a caregiver in taking care of a terminally ill or a bed ridden patient.

The Gita says – “If you only enjoy the gifts of the Universe, the life-giving sun, the nourishing rain, the fertile earth, the lofty mountains,the flowing rivers and not put your own shoulder to the wheel, offering your effort back to the Universe, you are no better than a common thief”

Duties need to be done, just like nature performs its role unerringly.Our own body,with its rhythmic heart beats infusing us with life-giving blood,is no less an inspiration. And no duty can be more urgent,more righteous than filial duty. Dwelling on this thought might help in cultivating the huge amount of energy,that being a caregiver entails. Being human and having a conscious choice in matters, weighs us down with enormous responsibilities. That,in which lesser men and women have been known to fail.

And so, we must not forget that a caregiver too is a human and unfortunately carries the burden of human fallibility. Most of us sympathize with the patient but few spare a thought to the continuous toil of a primary caregiver. And just like a mother,who becomes a primary care giver for a baby, needs support and needs to take a breather once in a while,so does a caregiver. Rachna wrote this beautiful post on a caregiver’s side of the story some time back.

The greatest strength lies within oneself and so does our greatest weakness. And it is times like these that truly test our mettle and although each step forward might be excruciatingly hard, the day will come when we can look back without regrets. There’s no weight that’s heavier to bear than a troubled conscience.

Presenting this beautiful 2015 short film today “Teaspoon” (Running time: 20 mins) by Aban Bharucha Deohans.

Advised reading after viewing:

The plot of this film was really rich with myriad perspectives. The overall direction and acting was quite good other than the slightly jerky acting by the husband. But what I loved was the theme, which has been explored with all its nuances. I give full points for the story and the masterful ending, leaving open possibilities which were left unsaid.

Viewed in a different light, what if the lady had actually been imagining things and had actually become unhinged.But in retrospect, there were teaspoon marks by the bedside. Our mind plays weird games and it doesn’t take long for the lines of imagination and reality to quickly blur. The story brings out the need to be compassionate to all. It’s also quite possible that, for the want of a bit of compassion from the husband, a tragedy could have been avoided.

Overall a beautiful and a very thought provoking film.

Do watch and tell me your thoughts about the film !

27 thoughts on “Teaspoon

  1. Touching article, Ash. The post by Rachna was equally moving. So many points to ponder on, take back and do the much needed inner work so that we become better than what we were yesterday, or even the last minute. Our inner conscience is the mirror with which we view this life. I am inspired to watch the movie now, will do. Thank you for embedding it.

    1. Thanks for your comment Arti. Yes, there are so many things one needs to ponder on and somewhere through that very introspection, probably we can better deal with the problems of tomorrow. The short film is definitely a worth watch.

  2. Watched the movie now, Ash. Gosh! Very well made and brings so many issues to the fore. Thank you for linking to my post. I think caregivers are least understood. Their struggles are often overlooked and they are made to feel guilty for speaking ill of the ailing person or about their own suffering in looking after them. Very nicely written. Hope more people think about this important issue.

  3. Will watch the movie later and read the note after that.

    I can relate to this post. I feel trapped in my body, growing old is not a good thing and so is maintaining positivity. I will try to be positive on a daily basis and see if it can rewire my brain. Btw, we can’t neglect the role of caregiver, but do we neglect acknowledging it.

    1. Thanks Saru. I hope you get to watch the film soon. The awareness that we are not being positive and we need to change, is itself such a big step. And yes, we definitely fail to acknowledge the efforts of the caregivers and we should consciously try to do that more.

  4. I read this mail at the right time, the movie didn’t work for me due to office network but Loved your post to bits…I realized what I was missing and will wash my brain off and put in the right stuff from today.

  5. I had the seen the movie the day I saw the link in Facebook. My infinitely better half watched it too.

    Although I had forgotten it, she reminded me of what had happened five years ago when my father had a cataract surgery and due to certain medical condition, the ophthalmologist had advised cleaning of the eyes in a particular manner at certain intervals. He would start calling out for her every now and then, demanding that his eyes be cleaned. And yes, he was insistent, to say the least.

    The movie is a tense, psychological rendition that had me glued till the end. The climax was credibly built up leading to the final act. And quite like you, I feel impelled to transfer the blame to the callousness of the husband, his acting included.

    1. Glad that it was compelling enough for both of you to watch it. Good short films like this are really a beauty to watch as the images stay with you for a long time and forces one to think in terms of our own lives.

  6. Hemachandran

    A well made thought provoking movie. Facts shown a little exaggerated. Good acting.Gripping from start to finish.

  7. Arpita

    I saw this movie yesterday and it really touched me . What my perspective about the ending is lot of times the lady expressed her feelings to husband .. She was all the time home and wanted to go out . Same thing was with the dad who wants to spend time with them and do tak tak to interact with the lady as off course the husband don’t even go to meet his dad and may be want to give them privacy so he doesn’t do tak tak in his presence .. So at the end when she hears the tak tak again from his husband who doesn’t even talk to her properly and just for timepass he does it .. Then she sinks in guilt .. Well there may be different perspective ..

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